On Saturday our area had a meeting with Sisters Esplin, Thompson, and Dalton from the general auxiliaries. I have to say, I was not thrilled to go to this meeting, and it actually took me all day to talk myself into going. I am so glad I did! What I learned that night, was that these women are real women living the gospel the best they can. They aren't perfect, and have the same issues I have. Okay, I may have a few more. They seemed so real and it was so enjoyable to listen to their experiences and what they learned. I was so impressed with the overall message that I am a daughter of a Heavenly Father who really loves me, and wants me to return to him. Thank you sisters for sharing your spirit with me, even though it was televised to me, the spirit touched my heart and helped me to know that I am on the right course and we are all real women and will continue to do the best we can.
Good Things:
1. being rewarded for going
2. seeing real women
3. feeling the spirit
Monday, March 5, 2012
Septic Advice
After ten years of living here, my friends insisted that I get my septic pumped. They said they could not believe I hadn't had problems, and that if I let it go too long it would ruin my leach line and be rather costly to repair. So I called and they came today. Who would have guessed that for $365 I would not only get my septic tank pumped, but also an hour session of marriage and family advice! I have to say, it was actually a very nice visit with a very nice gentleman. He was probably around 65 or so years old, and seemed to have lots of life experience to share with me, and it was a beautiful day to sit with him while his workers shoveled to find the tank. So here is some of his advice:
*family is important, even when you don't have worldly wealth, family makes you rich
*take some time with just your spouse
*it is the little things that matter: $10 roses at safeway, a hug after a long day, a dinner out, etc.
*talk to your kids, but mostly listen without judgement
*provide a place for your kids to bring their friends so you know who they are with, and what they are doing.
*take time to unwind after a stressful day at work before coming home: stop by for coffee - or maybe just a coke!
*mom's have a full time job: they should not work if possible, the kids need mom
*everyone should help out everyone
* always pump from both lids: check that it is done, some companies say they do, but don't!
*say "I love you" and mean it
*treat your family right, and you will always have them
*turn off the TV
*spend money on little things for your spouse, it will be worth it in the long run. Cheaper than divorce.
*family is important, even when you don't have worldly wealth, family makes you rich
*take some time with just your spouse
*it is the little things that matter: $10 roses at safeway, a hug after a long day, a dinner out, etc.
*talk to your kids, but mostly listen without judgement
*provide a place for your kids to bring their friends so you know who they are with, and what they are doing.
*take time to unwind after a stressful day at work before coming home: stop by for coffee - or maybe just a coke!
*mom's have a full time job: they should not work if possible, the kids need mom
*everyone should help out everyone
* always pump from both lids: check that it is done, some companies say they do, but don't!
*say "I love you" and mean it
*treat your family right, and you will always have them
*turn off the TV
*spend money on little things for your spouse, it will be worth it in the long run. Cheaper than divorce.
Saturday, March 3, 2012
Accepted
B was also accepted into BYU! Really! How can I possibly be old enough to have 2 children in college?! So, now she has some homework to do in deciding where she needs to be. She will visit each campus this week. She also needs to think about her path of study. I told her to make it a matter of prayer, to which she promptly rolled her eyes to let me know she already is.
Good things:
1. prayer
2. choices
3. knowing an answer will come
Good things:
1. prayer
2. choices
3. knowing an answer will come
Nothing to say...
so all you get is...
Good Things:
1. peace and quiet
2. sunshine with NO wind
3. tulips peeking through the dirt
Good Things:
1. peace and quiet
2. sunshine with NO wind
3. tulips peeking through the dirt
Tuesday, January 24, 2012
Meet Thelma
P.S. Right now she is wearing a top I am making for the dance commpetition for B. There will be a leotard under it.
Good things:
1. Thelma
2. Sewing
3. Creativity
Meanest Mom Ever Award
Yes, I received this award yet again over the weekend! It is not hard to believe I have the longest running streak yet. Almost 20 years to be exact! So, now I am going to explain why...
1. Actually, I have to admit this is a very selfish reason, to save face. No one ever wants to hear, "those _________(last name, not expletive) children are out of control." The short of it is, I want my children to make me look good. I have enough issues of my own, that cause me to fall short of the perfection I strive for. I know, silly as it may be, I want other people to think all is under control etc. I want my friends to think I am a good mom. Why is that? We all know that unfortunately, children make their own decisions, much to our dismay. We cannot force them to make the right choice, oh yeah, I think that was Satan's plan. (why is it that his plan is sometimes so appealing?) I try not to judge others for the choices their children make. We try our best to teach them, and sometimes they just make stupid mistakes, just like we did when we were their age... And still do. Yes, note to self, never judge a parent, (or child) for their child (or parent's) decision. We all make our own choices therefore resulting in our own consequences. At the seminary fireside on Sunday, Pres. Packer quoted Romney, (I think) "We must teach not to be understood, but so that we cannot be misunderstood."
2. I want my children to grow up to be amazing, adults. I have high expectations for them, and I want them to be better than me. I want them to be smart, compassionate, grateful, respectful, spiritual, wise, humble, successful, responsible, etc. I want them to know all the answers, do all the right things, learn everything they need to, and not get hurt. I really do want the very best for my children, and hope they can see that even through my meanness. I really am trying to help them achieve all those things, and I expect so much from them, it probably isn't even realistic. But I still want it.
Even if I continue to receive the award for the meanest mom ever, I will not back off. I will continue to help my children be all those things previously mentioned. To me, it is proof that I love them, and want the best for them. Yes, they do need to learn to work, do well in school, have curfews, text me where they are and who they are with. They need to wake up early to read scriptures, go to seminary, come to FHE, make dinner, clean, etc. I just hope by the time they leave my home, they will know that I really do love them, and am not trying to make life miserable, but actually wonderful in the long run.
And by the way, this parent thing is really really difficult! And I have some really great kids despite their mother!
Good Things:
1. high expectations
2. my children
3. being a parent
1. Actually, I have to admit this is a very selfish reason, to save face. No one ever wants to hear, "those _________(last name, not expletive) children are out of control." The short of it is, I want my children to make me look good. I have enough issues of my own, that cause me to fall short of the perfection I strive for. I know, silly as it may be, I want other people to think all is under control etc. I want my friends to think I am a good mom. Why is that? We all know that unfortunately, children make their own decisions, much to our dismay. We cannot force them to make the right choice, oh yeah, I think that was Satan's plan. (why is it that his plan is sometimes so appealing?) I try not to judge others for the choices their children make. We try our best to teach them, and sometimes they just make stupid mistakes, just like we did when we were their age... And still do. Yes, note to self, never judge a parent, (or child) for their child (or parent's) decision. We all make our own choices therefore resulting in our own consequences. At the seminary fireside on Sunday, Pres. Packer quoted Romney, (I think) "We must teach not to be understood, but so that we cannot be misunderstood."
2. I want my children to grow up to be amazing, adults. I have high expectations for them, and I want them to be better than me. I want them to be smart, compassionate, grateful, respectful, spiritual, wise, humble, successful, responsible, etc. I want them to know all the answers, do all the right things, learn everything they need to, and not get hurt. I really do want the very best for my children, and hope they can see that even through my meanness. I really am trying to help them achieve all those things, and I expect so much from them, it probably isn't even realistic. But I still want it.
Even if I continue to receive the award for the meanest mom ever, I will not back off. I will continue to help my children be all those things previously mentioned. To me, it is proof that I love them, and want the best for them. Yes, they do need to learn to work, do well in school, have curfews, text me where they are and who they are with. They need to wake up early to read scriptures, go to seminary, come to FHE, make dinner, clean, etc. I just hope by the time they leave my home, they will know that I really do love them, and am not trying to make life miserable, but actually wonderful in the long run.
And by the way, this parent thing is really really difficult! And I have some really great kids despite their mother!
Good Things:
1. high expectations
2. my children
3. being a parent
Sunday, January 15, 2012
About that responsibility...
Yes, b has three jobs! I think maybe I should get a job, it almost makes me feel guilty. She has been working at the district attorneys office four days a week for 12 hours and a work study credit at school. Two days a week she works at an after school program for at risk elementary students, and cleaning G's office two times a week. She stays quite busy! But I think she loves the freedom money can buy her...I like it too! Better than that, is that her co-workers like her, and they say she is a good, hard worker. And of course I remind her to save for college. She is doing a great job. If only she could keep a clean room!
Good things:
1. Hard working people
2. Saving for a rainy day (or college)
3. Employment
Good things:
1. Hard working people
2. Saving for a rainy day (or college)
3. Employment
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